Paradigms & Maintaining Causes

What is a Paradigm? What is a Maintaining Cause?

How do they impact us? What do they mean for everyday life?

Well, firstly lets start with What are they?

Paradigms or maintaining causes are belief systems that are controlling our perception and interpretation of every external circumstance we encounter daily and ultimately how we react in the situation- its our behaviour essentially.

How? Some of it is genetic coding but the rest of the programming comes from the environments we have been exposed to throughout life up to and including now. Its external factors or lifestyle that we allow to control our lives whether we like it, want it or not.

Our subconscious mind holds all our habits, beliefs and attitudes its where we are programmed and the subconscious mind is a sponge it absorbs absolutely everything- positive and negative and then as we move through life it means we respond to external situations from our autopilot programming which is what's creating the results we see on the outside. So what does that mean for us?

How does the paradigm or maintaining cause impact us?

Some of our paradigms or maintaining causes can be good but ultimately there are ones that are limiting to us- limiting us from reaching our full potential in what we want to achieve in our lives- any and every aspect of our lives personal, professional or indeed our health. This is where I see it most people come to me burnt out, overwhelmed, cant sleep, experiencing anxiety among a wide variety of other physical symptoms and feel like doormats and people pleasers.

Have you ever wondered:

1. How you keep having the same issues arise in a work situation? you swear the next new job you will just do your own job & just work the allocated hours but yet......

Example: Always end up taking on extra work - other peoples work then getting resentful & working extra hours each week ?

2. Why you always date the same kind of person and it always end in the same result?

Example: There is something familiar about the person when you meet them and you enjoy their company, as time goes by you see that you are perhaps giving all the love- maybe they have cheated on you and you forgive them, or they make excuses and always put there needs first but you always justify the behaviour?

3. Wondered why you can only ever seem to earn so much no matter HOW hard you work?

Example: Your salary is €60,000/year not matter what extra jobs or activities you do, you always nett out at the same at the end of the year?

Well this is where the paradigm or maintaining cause comes into play- its controlling our results & behaviours. How we process things from the external world with our senses in our internal world this then dictates the behaviours that appear on the outside and subsequently the result. This is why we say things but then end up doing and experiencing exactly the same outcomes.

As a child you may also have heard

- Work hard and you will have lots of money.

- Work hard otherwise your lazy

- Get a good pensionable job and all will be ok.

- Always doing things to keep people happy because you don't want any hostility or conflict

- Always doing what others want in the hope you will get some validation or praise

- Bending over backwards to please everyone else in the hope this will make you feel better

- Doing what everyone else wants you to do to keep them happy rather than what keeps you happy?

If any of this resonates these are deeply ingrained habits and beliefs from a lifetime of experiences and circumstances that have caused your sub- conscious mind to belief & interpret that you must work hard no matter what and then you will be rewarded this isn't true this is a paradigm.

Similar to doing what everyone else wants to keep them happy or to avoid conflict or tension- is that really serving you? Are you happy? - In my view & in my experience this is how people ultimately get sick- they are doing whatever everyone else wants done except what they really want to do for themselves.- Always sacrificing what they want to keep loves ones, extended family and or there employer happy.

Why?- because they hope one day they will get recognition for this or validation for all they do but typically what I see in my practice is people particularly women- broken, overwhelmed, lost and totally worn out- they feel like doormats & people pleasers who do everything for everyone else around them and nothing for themselves. Then I support them with kinesiology and Homeopathy and for a while they see improvements they feel stronger in themselves and find they make changes but they slip back to the old habits over time.

I have found that to ultimately change the behaviours and subsequent results my clients see on the outside requires rewiring of the sub-conscious mind. This can be done, I have done it myself. The paradigm is so strongly programmed into our minds that it literally prevents us from moving forward or breaking the cycle - so to fully reclaim our lives and to be able to fully break the people pleasing, doormat and workaholic cycles we MUST do things a different way to get a different result.

What does that mean for us everyday?

It means we will keep seeing the same patterns over and over again as 97% of the population does unless we actively embrace it and want to change it. It means we will stay on the same hamster wheel forever unless we actively challenge it and want to change and even at that we still need understanding, courage and determination. This is hard to achieve without support as the paradigm will always want you to stay in the comfort zone of what it knows- anything that looks, smells or feels like change will fire the paradigm up and this is ultimately why 97% of people never change they stay the same because the paradigm is so loud and they have no one supporting them, challenging the paradigm and supporting them on the accountability road to achieve the desired change- you need a coach or a mentor this is it not optional its essential if you really want to see the paradigm shift and change so you can get a different result.

Can we - Can we really change the paradigm?

Yes, Yes, We Can.

How - I hear you ask?

Well- that lies within us too. Just by coming aware of the limiting belief, attitude or habit is not going to be enough we physically have to alter it. The paradigm is a multitude of habits that have formed over weeks, months and years and they wont just change with an awareness of the issue - they require attention and discipline before they can change.

How do we Identify & get the results we want?

1. Identify the result you actually want?

2. Gain and understanding of the mind and how it works

3. Outline what behaviours you believe are limiting you & then understand how to change them permanently

We have all seen changes and they last temporarily and then we slip back into the old habit its not long lasting- an example going to the gym loosing loads of weight and then 6 months later not going to the gym anymore and the weight creeps back on- its forced rather than been a permanent change.

If you really want to make a PERMANENT change and see LONG lasting change which leads to a permanent change in your results

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